A new school year can bring excitement, but it can also bring nervousness—especially when your child is entering a new school, classroom, or grade. Making friends doesn’t always happen naturally, and some children need a little encouragement and practice.
Here are a few simple ways you can help.
Practice Conversation Starters
Role-play simple ways your child can introduce themselves or start a conversation:
- “Hi, I’m ____. What’s your name?”
- “Do you want to sit with me?”
- “What do you like to play?”
- “Did you like the assignment?”
- “Do you want to play at recess?”
Practicing at home can make approaching someone feel less intimidating.
Encourage Shared Interests
Friendships often develop naturally when children have something in common. Encourage your child to try clubs, sports, art, music, or other activities that interest them.
Teach the Power of a Smile
Simple behaviors—making eye contact, smiling, saying hello, and showing interest in others—can make it easier for children to connect.
Remind Them That Rejection Happens
Not every person will become a friend, and that’s okay. If someone doesn’t want to play or talk, encourage your child not to take it personally. There are many people they haven’t met yet.
Focus on One Friend at a Time
Children don’t need a huge group of friends. Encourage them to look for one kind person they enjoy spending time with. One friendship can provide a sense of belonging and make school feel much more comfortable.
Create Opportunities Outside School
Consider inviting a classmate over, meeting at a park, or arranging a playdate. Friendships often become stronger when children have opportunities to spend time together outside the classroom.
Remind Them to Be the Friend They Want to Have
Encourage kindness, inclusion, listening, sharing, and curiosity about others.
You can remind your child:
“You don’t have to make everyone like you. Focus on being kind, being yourself, and finding people who make you feel comfortable being you.”
Making friends takes time. Some children connect quickly, while others need weeks or months to feel comfortable. Be patient, listen to your child’s concerns, and celebrate small steps—saying hello, sitting beside someone new, or joining a game can be a big accomplishment.
Sometimes, the best way to help your child find a friend is simply to remind them that they don’t have to change who they are to belong.