We all get to a place in our lives where we realize that something has to change. Once we decide we are ready to do something different, then what? It can often be really helpful to meet with someone who is not connected to our lives in any way for guidance and support. They can have an objective viewpoint because they are not connected to our daily lives like our family and friends. But people often share stories where they haven’t had the best experience in therapy. So how do we know who to pick?
Just like in life where we don’t always connect with every single person we meet, you will not connect with every single therapist that you encounter. I always encourage people to give it at least 2 or 3 sessions to see if you feel you can work with someone. However, you need to feel safe, heard, seen and able to connect with the person you choose to do therapy with. The therapeutic relationship is a huge component of what helps us heal, so choose someone you feel comfortable with!
Another significant component of picking a good therapist is finding someone who is doing their own work. While your therapist has training that you might not have, we are ALL on this same journey of life and everyone – including your therapist – is human and has issues they are dealing with in their lives. Not that your therapist has to be in therapy constantly themselves, but they do need to believe in it and be aware of and working on their own stuff. We all know people who genuinely believe in what they are doing. Find someone like that for your therapist!
Finally, it’s important that your therapist be able to describe to you how they conceptualize therapy and what their role and your role will be in the therapeutic process. This will help you know what to expect and how to feel safe as you begin what can often be an uncertain process of change.
These are some of the major things we work on at Renew Counseling so that we can give you a positive experience that will be for your good and growth. We would love to walk with you on your journey of healing, so feel free to contact us!
~ Tiffany Jones, MS, LMHC